He sent her pictures of the baseball game he attended. She told him about her car trouble and he responded ‘why didn’t you ask me to come help? And, most importantly, how you can take control of the situation – like a grownup! If you are like Sue, Lila or Melissa, here is what you need to know: Continuous texting, when void of in-person meeting, creates a false sense of connection.
Do not assume that getting a bunch of texts from a guy means you are having a relationship. If a man is choosing to only text or primarily text, he’s not showing signs of wanting to get to know you in a meaningful way. Whether it’s because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared — that’s 100% immaterial. You feel like you are getting to know one another, but that is not what’s happening.
The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
Texting is also good for a quick “had a nice time” or “sleep well” note following a nice date. I can see why even good, solid, single men love texting.
So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s the The Man and she’s his prize!
In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.