It seems like Korean guys are in demand because many of my single girlfriends have been telling me how much they’d like to learn Korean just to date Korean boys. Quite understandable considering how men are portrayed in all these Korean MVs, dramas, and movies.
But really, that’s like saying I want to date a Lawyer after watching Suite. They sometimes go MIA, put friends over you, breaks your heart, forget your birthday etc.
One thing that Korean guys seem to enjoy doing is refer to themselves as “Oppa.” For instance, instead of saying “I’ll buy you dinner/I’ll do that for you,” they will say “Oppa will buy you dinner/ Oppa will do that for you.” Seriously, when a guy that I’m not too interested does this, every bit of hair on my body stands up.
Good thing that comes with this phenomenon is that Korean guys in general are very responsible and almost trained to take care of girls in all ways possible.
This made it hard for me to adapt to ABC guys that were texting 2,3 messages per day or every two three days because Korean guys will text you every day. It’s not that they’re more/less into you; I think it’s a norm.Regardless, it’s good to see guys putting as much effort into looking nice and “dolling” up, but they would expect you to do the same. For instance, while it’s extremely subtle, they may exert more authority or expect you to show more “child-like” behaviors. In Korea, age determines how you refer to one another (unlike in Canada where everyone calls each other names).I hear in Canada, guys stop paying after 2,3 dates, or even on second dates it’s common to go dutch. Although there seems to be a shift in this dynamic very recently, it’s still very normal for guys to be the one getting tab all the time. When a guy is older than a girl, the girl refers to this guy as “Oppa.” But it really doesn’t matter how old you are, because if a guy is interested in you, he’ll try to act like an Oppa anyways.Once you get serious, then the paying becomes a bit more even, maybe girls pay 3:7/4:6. I’m sure most of you have heard of this phrase through Psy’s Gangnam Style.This phrase carries an odd mix of varying sentiments that ranges from being responsible, protective, to having more power, status, and right.